Wow, so much going on in my life right now. I will start with the elephant in the room.
I am a new father of a twelve year old boy that is not my own. My wife's sister has struggled with drug addiction since she was 14. She has recently become quite withdrawn and our worst fears have come true. She is using heroin again daily and resorting to prostitution for money. She had an overdose recently and social services took away her child and allowed the child into our care.
Its a tough pill to swallow. The sister does not want help with her addiction and I personally think its her last ride. I feel bad for the kid. He is kind hearted and so far a week in listens to what we say. He has no confidence, no friends, socially awkward and no self worth. His mom lives hours away and he is getting homesick.
We are trying to do our best to make him feel comfortable, we gave him a big room to stay in he can call his own, we are trying to get him more physically active as he is a bit pudgy , we are cutting out his 3 cans a coke day habit and getting him on track by eating healthy whole foods and home cooked meals instead of fast food. I am going to take him shopping for some new clothes and a haircut before we get him in a new school. I was thinking of getting him into karate or tae kwon doe to teach him some respect for others, self respect and confidence. Scouts and cadets is also a possibility since he needs strong male support since his dad has never been in the picture.
I really think this is going to be a forever type of thing and I have to adjust for the future. I have the wife looking into financial assistance for this type of situation and programs like counseling and tutoring for the kid which he desperately needs.
I could have easily told the wifey I did not want him here at the house and send him off to his grandma , her other sisters family or even foster care but I believe this is the right thing to do since we are able too. Its hard for me to process everything right now but I will keep doing what I think is right and give this kid a chance at a good life.
I have always believed in saving for a rainy day and lucky I did. Being financially independent has provided me the opportunity to help many others. This just cements my long term outlook in grinding forward and living within our means. Yes I like the finer things in life like a shiny new Ferrari but it would be financially irresponsible and just selfish.
If anyone has some advice on this matter please suggest something to
make the transition easier. My life has been turned upside down since.
In business news .
I have my new rental sorted out to a family of five for $3600 a month which I am quite happy about. Also I have been looking into another house. Its basically a tear down home and the place is just lot value. I plan on building a home and flipping it for some good profits. Details will come soon in a post.